Daily Archives: March 31, 2010

New Baby and Home Ed


It has been a while since I have written a general update post. So, here’s one!

Baby Y is a month old tomorrow inshaAllah! Where has the time gone? I absolutely have no idea! SubhanAllah. Time really does just slip out of your hands like sand! I feel that my days are shorter – probably because I am a lot busier with breastfeeding and tending to the other two.

Mother in law left mid March and hubby returned to work. So, the last two weeks has been just me and the kids. Alhamdulillah it hasn’t been as hard as I thought it would be. Actually, the first day on my own with them, I bundled them into the car (was I crazy going with a 3 week baby!?) and headed off to a home ed group in Putney. It is run by non-Muslims and we had a really nice time. I met 2 lovely women there. Two other sisters attend whom I know and it was interesting to meet new home edders who are not Muslim. Plus it had these wonderful views:


In terms of home ed, we haven’t really been doing much. We have kept to Quran and reading. MashaAllah la quwatta illa billah, R completed her hifdh of juz amma some time ago and so is anticipating her juz amma party eagerly. I just feel like I need to get some more energy before I start planning anything. She has made her long list of friends she wants to invite, so it looks like I am going to have to book a hall and plan the party rather than order one already made for you at one of those adventure play places.

Z has shown signs of a ‘love-hate’ kind of relationship for his baby brother. I’ve realised that he is the one most likely to suffer. R has my attention because she is older and we are formally home educating. And baby Y has my attention because, well, he’s a new baby. And so poor Z is the one that could be ignored, although I’m trying to make a conscious effort to do something with him every day. At the moment, I’m in the process of organising some toddler activities for him. I’ll be making some resources and figuring out things we can do with the toys he already has. He is speaking so much more now and showing more interest in doing things, so I think its time we do a bit of stuff that he would do if I could take him to a playgroup. Again, watch this space.

I’m also trying to involve R more with Z and so got the playdough out and they had a session with this:

We also visited the library. And R took out loads of books on animals. She is really into jungle animals at the moment, particularly lions. She enjoys reading facts about them, watching them on the internet and pretending to be one!! So, a lot of reading has been going on here whilst I breastfeed baby Y. I have been reading to Z and Y. As soon as Z sees me reading to R, he brings his favourite books and screams until I open HIS book and read to him. I think I’ll have to switch reading time for R to bed time when we can be alone inshaAllah. I still ensure that R reads to me every day. And she is reading through the Eeman Reading Series. We have a bit of an Islamic discussion afterwards. Books I have read to her in recent weeks are: George’s Marvellous Medicine, various non-fiction books and a new one which we both absolutely love!! Here it is:

 I have read The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, and so when I heard there was a story book for children covering the 7 Habits, I visited amazon straight away. We have really enjoyed reading the book and I look forward to doing some of the activities suggested in there with R. I am also reading The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families at the moment which is maybe not a good idea because my hormones are still raging, so my book is often getting tear-soaked! I highly recommend this book.

We have also put up several bird feeders in the garden and out front. And we have had an array of different kinds of birds: pigeons, blue tits, robins. And I managed to take a picture of a blue tit! R is really enjoying observing the birds feed.

 Can you see him?

Today at breakfast, R was talking about her favourite topic at the moment: lions! And she told me ‘Ummi, I want to start a project about lions!’ I naturally jumped at the chance and began printing anything I could find on the net. Printed off lots of activities based on lions and she began her project. She actually worked for about four hours on her project throughout the day. She wanted to continue but I wanted to save some for tomorrow! It actually showed me that when she is interested in something, she will eagerly want to learn and continue with her work. I think I need to grab these opportunities more.

Here is one of the things she did today:

Don’t know if you can see it. This is 2 A3 pieces of card stuck together. She cut out some pictures of jungle animals and then drew the surrounding landscape. Above the picture, she then wrote her own story. She really worked very hard on this and I really tried to give her a lot of praise for it, as she doesn’t do a lot of independent creative writing.

I have been thinking a lot about how I look after my kids, how I home ed them etc. Things have changed since baby Y was born. And I’m not sure if the way I have been doing things is going to stay the same. As I was telling another sister recently, I am Miss Queen of Planning and I don’t know if my way of living in such an organised way is going to suit our ‘new’ lifestyle. I have to tend to baby and also I have a toddler who is very active and I need to give him time too. It is something that I am praying about and I know that Allah (Swt) will guide me to the best way to home ed and raise my kids. Its just about being patient until my dua for guidance is answered. Life includes lots of changes and I know that I must adapt my ways of doing things to fit in with those changes. I guess its just hard to change..