Firstly, I would like to thank all the sisters who left comments in my last post and all those that emailed me privately. SubhanAllah, you have all been a huge support to me over the years I have been home educating. The pieces of advice is just what I needed. May Allah reward all of you immensely. Ameen.
Been thinking a lot these last few days. My focus has been a lot on R. Baby Y needs me for his physical needs and Z seems to just float around which was really getting to me. I don’t have three children with three unique personalities and I need to give each his and her rights.
I have heard from other sisters that they tend to focus a lot on the eldest and the others receive less attention. I have found myself doing the same thing and it just isn’t right. And so, things need to change. Just as R has quality time with me when she was 3 years old, so should Z. I do feel sorry for him at times and perhaps his playing up is because he is craving my attention.
I tried something yesterday. You see, Z has a lot of energy mashaAllah and can’t sit still. He is running around everywhere. One of the things I am going to change is after breakfast and after doing Quran with R, we are all going to go to the park. Weather is wet and cold at the moment, but as one sister advised me – anoraks and wellies!! So, going to buy some cheap anoraks from Primark inshaAllah and I’m going to let the kids run and get all that energy out. Z needs this. If we can’t which we couldn’t yesterday as R is ill at the moment, straight after Quran, we did some exercise at home – jumping jacks, jumping up down, running from one wall to the next, stretches! It was fun, good for them and good for me. Even baby Y was jumping up and down in his walker laughing! lol
Yesterday, I also sat down with R when the boys were asleep and asked her what she liked and didn’t like about home ed. And after speaking to a sister who has 6 kids mashaAllah and went from structured to semi-structured, we devised a new timetable TOGETHER. So the timetable reflects what she feels she needs to learn and what I would like her to learn. I’m going to tweak it a little bit and hopefully this will be in line with why I chose to home educate in the first place.
I want my children to be unique individuals who love Allah and His Messenger. I want them to love Islam and to be proud as Muslims. I want them to have a deep love for learning and to not be afraid to pursue their interests. They shouldn’t have to wait for me to hand them something to do to learn but to initiate it themselves. I want them to respect others. And I want my kids to be happy. They shouldn’t feel frustrated because of home ed. It should be a wonderful experience for them to look back at when they are older. I do feel that we have achieved some of these things by the mercy of Allah. But as life changes, so must the way we home educate and I find that as R is getting older, she needs more room to choose and to explore the wonders of life and the world with less of my structure..