I have been meaning to post about this as it is something I feel is quite important for mothers generally but possibly moreso for home educating mothers.
The mother’s mental health is so important not only for herself but also for her children. If the mother is happy, mentally healthy and strong within her faith and closeness to Allah then this will no doubt have a great effect on the children. The opposite is also true and you find children are suffering due to the emotional abuse they see and experience from their mothers.
I think it is so important that we constantly check if we are feeling okay, whether our relationship with Allah is strong. Sometimes, we get so caught up in the everyday monotony of cleaning bottoms, teaching, cooking and cleaning that we forget ourselves. What good will we be to others if we don’t look after ourselves?! And doubly important, how can we safeguard our emaan and look after it and strengthen it, if we don’t give time to do the ibadah that softens the heart for Allah.
There always has to be a time for this and a time for that. I am probably the worst culprit when it comes to looking after myself but for the past few months, I have really tried to take out time for me so that I am refreshed again. And isn’t our religion wonderful – a dear Sheikh here in London said (paraphrasing): “When we take time out for recreational activities to relax, if we have the intention that we are doing this so that we are ready and rejuvenated to worship Allah again (salah, raising children, sadaqa, quran, visiting relatives etc) then that leisurely time becomes an active of worship.” SubhanAllah!
So, sisters lets look after ourselves. Even if it means taking that long 1 hour soak in the bath once a week with wonderful lush shower gel or it means we take just 15 minutes a day to really let our souls absorb the wonders of the Quran then lets do it.
We’ll inshaAllah get reward, feel refreshed to ‘carry on’, and things might actually seem easier. Its a win win situation! Don’t neglect your mental health and your emaan!