Just got back from a week of camping with some other home educating families. Feeling a bit down to be back in London. I so wish for the idyllic, green, free life for my kids. ..
Last week was a very intense week for us a family. A sister Solace UK had been supporting was dying and eventually did return to her Lord. Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi rajioun. So formal home Ed kind of flew out of the window as I had to arrange for transportation of the body, the ghusl, janazah and then burial.
Despite not being as available to the kids as I normally am, they got to experience praying the janazah, and witnessing the actual burial of our dear sister. Real Islamic studies lessons subhanaAllah…They saw the body taken out of the coffin, lowered into the grave, and the wooden planks positioned over the body. They then contributed in filling the grave with the crumbled earth. It was a very moving experience for them and I think it left it’s mark on R.
A sister asked me if it would be too much for them. I said no. Death is a part of life and it’s a reality they need to know and remember.
Since then, she’s developed a sudden interest in the journey of the soul after death and the signs of the day of judgement. So I’m in the process of stocking up some books inshaAllah. If you can recommend any good titles, please do let me know.
This has led us onto thoughts about R’s hifdh. I’m of the opinion that a child doing hifdh should never really stop hifdh but to reduce it if more time is needed for murajaah. However, recently we have decided to stop her hifdh for about 10 days. Her murajaah has become very intense in recent weeks and we feel it is best to do a huge intense round of murajaah before continuing. We have always had the target of her completing her hifdh by age 10 and inshaAllah Allah will bless her to reach that target. But after the recent death, it has changed our perspective somewhat.
There’s no rush. In fact, I’d rather she finishes later by 16 and memorises it well and really solidifies and consolidates her hifdh than to complete by age 10 and her hifdh is patchy.
We’ve also been thinking about our intentions towards hifdh. Since R has been memorising, she has always wanted a huge party with her friends once she finishes inshaAllah. I have no problem doing that for her but I want all of our intentions to be pure and so we’ve decided to postpone the party some time after she completes all her hifdh. In that way, we hope that our intentions will be purer.
After she completes her hifdh, it still be a private affair. No one knowing aside from us in the family. Trying to link that back to shukr and being grateful to Allah. Then later on we’ve agreed she can tell her friends so as to invite them to her party. I don’t want her to start advertising it as soon as she’s completed as it interferes with her intention. And it affects my own. Life is preparation for the next life. We need to be careful what we say and do and how we do things…. As they either have a positive or negative effect on our next life.
May Allah help us all. Ameen
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Arts and crafts, experiments and hands on learning is what makes home education fun. Sadly I’m not artistic but I have to still strive to include it in our home Ed.
Here are some random arts and crafts, hands on activities the kids have recently been enjoying:
R is really into paper quilling at the moment. It’s a slightly complex hobby ti have and requires a paper quilling tool, onion holder, special paper and board with pins that you see in the picture. Pic 2 and 3 are some of the designs that she’s made mashaAllah. Really nice hobby.
The next activity is so easy to make and really great results. Take a canvas, we bought ours from the pound shop. Using making tape, tape your name or a design onto the canvas and then paint over the canvas. Once it’s dry peel off the making tape and lovely piece of art. We recently did this at home and I like the results:
Our home Ed group is really great mashaAllah. Each week the kids do something different.
For the older girls…
Flower pot painting and decorating boxes with pretty napkins.
Weaving baskets. This set is brilliant. It comes with a cardboard ready bowl and weaving tool.
We separated the remaining Lego into colours and the kids have been using the Lego a lot.
Going to try to do more activities like these with the kids. Home Ed isn’t just about academics.
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I often wonder what their wish would be. . Most likely to return to this life to do what they didn’t do. To live a life that would benefit them in their grave.
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A few days ago I was speaking to a dear friend. The conversation started off with her pouring out her frustration at not being able to achieve a particular goal she’s always dreamed of. She told me of a slight obstacle that she felt was getting in the way of this dream turning into a reality. To her, this obstacle was the main reason that she couldn’t have what she has always wanted.
I saw it very differently. After a long conversation on the phone, she told me she felt like a ‘burden’ had been lifted and she saw the entire situation in a completely different light. I wasn’t going to blog about it but I thought it may be that others are in a similar predicament and so I will inshaAllah share with you some of the things I mentioned to her.
Many of us want so many different things in our lives. In fact, the list is endless. We have these ideas that keep itching away at us and we hope and dream and then hope and dream again. But why is it that nothing actually transpires?
I’m going to quickly talk about two initial steps that are very important…
Be certain in your own dreams
We all know that Allah answers our duas. Either He azza wa jaal gives it to us in this life, grants it to us in the next life or prevents an equal harm from happening to us. We all know that if we want something badly, make dua for it! One of the conditions of a powerful dua is that you are CERTAIN 100% that Allah is hearing you and that He WILL respond to you. No doubt about it – no ‘insha’Allah’ – no ‘maybe’. But that ‘YES!’, HE WILL RESPOND. But here’s the problem. Many of us are not even certain in what we are asking for so how can we actually have that certainty that our dua will receive a response?
Lack of certainty in our own dreams breeds INACTION. When you’re not certain about something – you’re simply not passionate and to be quite frank, you won’t put in the ACTION to make it happen. You won’t even raise your hands and beg Allah for it because it isn’t something that has been ingrained into your heart yet.
So one of the first steps is really to take time out to build your vision for your dunya and akhirah, to refine it to such a level that you almost SEE it happening right in front of you. Your fingers start tingling, your heart starts racing as you can almost touch that vision. Your senses reach a heightened state and bam! It’s there right in front of you – you can see it, hear it, smell it, touch it, taste its sweetness. It isn’t far away. It is almost as though you are watching a movie of your dreams unfolding right in front of you. You can almost see yourself enjoying the pleasures of jannah – the different fruits you will eat, the gathering of people in jannah seated on magnificient chairs waiting for their one on one time with Allah (Subhanahu wa ta’ala) where they can ask for anything that want…the Day of Increase!
Be certain in your goals for this life and the next, so that when you make dua for it, when you start putting it into action, it actually starts unfolding right in front of your eyes.
Be certain in your duas
Now that you are at a point where you’re child-like excited about your goals, you will definitely be making dua for it EVERYWHERE. You’ll know that you need to lift it up to Allah – that without doing so, it won’t be fully possible. You need that golden seal of baraka from your Lord. But this time you’ll be making dua differently. Instead of asking for the actual goal or dream to happen. You will be making dua that ‘When it happens ya Allah ….x, y,z’ It is now not an ‘IF’ dua but a ‘WHEN’ dua! Why? Because your certainty in your dua happening and your certainty in you doing the work is how can I put it….. ‘mmm…mmm… mmm….mashaAllah!’
Sisters, try to focus on these two aspects in your life and watch the amazing results unfold. With Allah anything is possible. We just need to be certain in that.
And finally, to my friend who I spoke to…I’m still waiting for that registration form!